I've got a very simple performance axiom that I try to stick with:
Play for twos like you'd play for thousands.
What does it mean? If I'm giving a private performance for two people, I don't want the caliber of my show affected because of the number of people watching me. I ALWAYS try to have in my mind that I'm playing a sold out show at Wembley Stadium -and for a piano/vocals show... that can get a little ridiculous! It's all about frame of mind.
Here's the deal, I've never played to a sold-out Wembley crowd, however, I HAVE played for sold-out midsize venues. That being said, I've played for "crowds" of twos or threes that included baristas and bartenders as well. The shows with lots of people were fun because the crowd got involved quickly and the good vibes multiplied. The empty venues were a different kind of fun because I was able to play my music because I enjoy my music. I just so happen to enjoy my music with lots of energy -the same energy that assists with getting the good vibes to multiply with lots of people. The baristas and bartenders might have thought it a bit odd -but most of the time, the staff at the bar or coffee shop have a blast -if anything, that's an easy way to get invited back (possibly at a busier day of the week).
Regardless, if you're unable to enjoy playing your music because you made it -and PERFORMING it the way that you have imagined without letting the number of people in attendance inhibit you, you'll find a new kind of joy in sharing your music with the world.
Just like acquiring any kind of greatness, you've got to practice it!
If a mirror helps, bring a mirror into your practice space. Find the right ways to stand. Find the right ways to hold your microphone. Work on "stage moves". WATCH your stage moves... you'll find that most of the time, you'll need to be more over-the-top with your actions to REALLY drive the "move" home! Take video of your rehearsal sessions -AND WATCH THEM BACK! Yup, that's EXACTLY what you look and sound like when you practice! Consequently, that's EXACTLY what you'll look like on a stage in front of 2... or 200,000! If you're dissatisfied with your caliber of performance, make some adjustments, take a video, and watch it again. Slowly, you'll get used to multiple elements in the polishing exercise... You'll get used to noticing details in your shows, you'll get used to having objective goals (that you can set, achieve, and reset as you like), and you'll get used to having a camera running during your rehearsals. I can't tell you how many cell phone videos will be taken at your show if you're bringing a high caliber act.
What's your show like -and how to you keep things fresh? I'd love to hear from you!
Until next time,
-T.